Thursday, June 13, 2013

A Letter To My 21 Yr Old Sassy Self

Hey all I'm linking up with Holly and Jake....

A Letter To My 21 Year Old Self
Since I'll be turning 34 yikes next week. Yep next week. This is a long time ago! A time of pre-children, and a rockn bod. LOL

Dear Nicole (21),

On your 21st birthday try not to be to disappointed by the lack of effort by your boyfriend and friends. They are all self-absorbed and are worried about where they want to go and aren't going to listen to you. You will be home by 11pm even though you didn't go out till 10 because your "friends" are tired and your boyfriend wants to go out and drink with his friends. Don't worry he won't be around to much longer after this. And there will be many other times when you can go out and drink yourself silly.....oh and you will!

Try not to take yourself so seriously. You can be young and dumb because now's the time to make mistakes. You can drink yourself silly and puke your brains out, dance your ass off, sleep all day and then go and do it again.

Remember that friends come and go and that bitchy girl that you think is your friend that worries more about her car than your 21st birthday is really not a friend. You will find out later that she tries to steal your boyfriend and that you should have let her have him because he is a true loser. You find out that the girl that acts like your friend really wants to shave your head when you sleep, she calls you fat behind your back and then acts like Doris Day to your face. She is fake and you need to drop her like a hot potato. Friend will come and go and you'll realize later in life that the ones worth keeping will be there for you as much as you are for them.

Don't skip the going away party for a co-worker that night you will meet your future husband, although you won't "date" him for a couple months because you need to recover from the asshole that wrecked you.  Be patient with him (future husband). He was wrecked by a girl too and he will make mistakes but realize if you are patient and you both talk through your problems life will be alright. Don't be a clingy, crazy, girl. He will not cheat on you. Trust him!

Family first! Remember to love your younger siblings even though they drive you nuts. Your sister will be going through many ups and downs this year. She will start collage and although she thinks she has it all together she doesn't. Be the shoulder she needs. Your younger sister is still a mini, remember to spend quality time with her. And your brothers will need a big sister to look up to.

Please please switch stylist. She will highlight your hair too blonde for you and you will look crazy. Oh and don't let her give you a perm while she's worried about her orange hair. That should be your first warning.....her orange hair. Please please get a darker shade of foundation. You are not white, you have an olive complexion and the too white pasty stuff you use will make you cringe every time you look back at pictures.

Enjoy your figure right now. You have a flat stomach and you are in shape. You will have 3 kids in the future and each one will wreck havoic on it. Be grateful for it now because it will take a lot of hard work and maybe surgery to get back to that shape again.

You are a hard worker. You'll be working a full-time job as Admin Assistant. and a part-time job as a Swim and Preschool Teacher. Be a sponge and learn everything. You will take everything you learn and be a self-employed business woman one-day. Your part-time job will teach you to have patience with children, but you also show their parents that it's ok for them to act crazy with their kids. Those kids will remember you years later. They will tell you that your classes were the most fun, and those parents will be forever grateful that you were able to teach their little ones to come out of their shells.

Last but certainly not least remember that you are a loving, trusting, person.  You wear your heart on your sleeve but that is what people love about you. You go the extra mile for others. Be you and don't try to change it!


  1. It's so funny how you think certain "friends" will be there for life, but when you look back you really see how they were! AND, I totally agree with you on the stomach thing. I wish I would have appreciated it more when I had it (Before a 9lb baby) Thanks for sharing!

  2. Lady, you are right on the money...especially about the friends. :)

  3. I loved the whole thing! Especially dropping bad friends. Amen!

  4. Love this. I actually did a similar post earlier this year to my 17 year old self. It's so funny how much things change. I SOOOOO wish I could go back and do some things over but oh well... tis life I guess!

  5. i have to be honest - i clicked your profile from this link up based on your packers sweatshirt you were wearing in the picture :)
    oh how i wish i knew which friends to drop back when i was 21 as well!


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